Three Seasons Community
Church– 10-14-07
The Most Important Conversations You’ll Ever
Have
Do you love Jesus? Where you spend
eternity?
Death and your final arrangements
Living without your spouse
How do you talk about yourself to
yourself?
Who or what are you really living for?
What is your consuming drive or passion?
What is the center of your life?
What is most important to you?
How does your checkbook, credit cards and
spending patterns agree or disagree with your answers?
The "Romans Road"
Romans 3:23
For all have sinned; all fall short of God's glorious standard.
Romans 5:8 But
God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while
we were still sinners.
Romans 6:23
For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life
through Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 10:9-10
For if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in
your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. [10]
For it is by believing in your heart that you are made right with God,
and it is by confessing with your mouth that you are saved.
Romans 10:13
For "Anyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."
Begin making it a daily habit to share your
joys, struggles, questions, disappointments about your spiritual life
with your spouse– and pray for and with one another!
Where are you going to be buried?
Do you have cemetery plots?
Do you have a will?
Who will take care of your minor children in
the event of your death?
How will your spouse survive if you die?
Where do you keep your check book and bank
accounts; financial records-- credit cards, tax returns, bank
statements, mutual funds, stocks, retirement savings; Insurance– life,
car, medical and other policies; Home Deed and Mortgage; Debts; Cash?
3 Broad Categories
Where things are– paperwork etc.
What you own– list all the things of value
What you owe– list of all debts; who you owe;
how much; terms
We project how we feel about ourselves to
others!
Proverbs 23:7a
(ASV) For as he thinketh within himself, so is he:
Luke 6:45 (NIV)
The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart,
and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his
heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.
Romans 8:5 (NLT)
Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things,
but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that
please the Spirit.
Philippians 4:8
(NIV) Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever
is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is
admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such
things.
How do you talk to yourself about yourself?
Self Talk can be generated from:
Upbringing / Parents / Doubts Cliches / Satan /
Negative Thoughts or Experiences / Guilt
Sometimes the most worn path in our brain is a
negative one– the good news is that we can always choose a new one!
What is your governing relationship message?
Which tape recording do you hear most often?
It’s completely within your control to turn
down and turn off negative messages and begin hearing new, positive
messages
A good exercise if you struggle with negative
self-image or self doubt is to read Ephesians 1-3. Take note of who we
are in Jesus.
Self Talk =
You believe these messages no matter
how irrational they are
They are learned, often early in life–
our family of origin gave us a lot of messages we’ve held on to
throughout our life
Every minute of every day you’re at a
crossroads– will you choose the negative or the positive message
to tell yourself and dwell on?
77% of our self-talk tends to be
negative
Because– Wherever you go– you are!
Let’s Review the Series
When your positive statements dwarf the
negative... you’re speaking love talk
When you remember your partner’s
personal FEAR FACTOR and respect his or her safety need...
you’re speaking love talk
When you intentionally respect and
honor the hardwiring of your partner’s talk style... you’re
speaking love talk
When you put yourself in your partners
shoes, with plenty of empathy... you’re speaking love talk
When you keep your gender differences
in mind and listen with the "third ear"... you’re speaking love
talk
When you do any and all of these...
you’re speaking love talk
1 Cor. 13:1 What if I could speak all languages
of humans and of angels? If I did not love others, I would be nothing
more than a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
